How We Miss Each Other: Meaning, misunderstanding, and the search for connection examines why caring people can leave the same interaction with entirely different understandings of what took place. Drawing from clinical work and philosophical reflection, the book explores how misunderstanding forms through interpretation, perception, timing, and emotional experience, often long before either person is aware of what is happening. It is written for readers who want a more serious understanding of why relationships become painful even when care is present.